Ever wonder how seeing the good in someone before they do can leave you feeling silly or stupid?

Having faith in someone or putting your trust in someone is a great thing. It is a brave thing to do and yet if they do no respond in a positive way…if in return they show a side that is untrustworthy or not loyal then we are left feeling like the failure? Why is that?


“When we seek to discover the best in others, we somehow bring out the best in ourselves.” -William Arthur Ward

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This is not intended to be a poem so it shouldn't be read that way.  It's just an open letter to a friend that means a lot to me that I felt the need to put it in writing...or at least try to...though I haven't shared with them yet.

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I'm not a bad person…

For some of us that's the thought that follows so many questions such as Why me? How could they? Why would they?

You are not a bad person, you are positive, you treat others well and expect it in return, but the fact is that none of that matters - not to those who wrong you. It doesn't matter whether or not you are a good person.  Whether or not you wouldn't do something to someone - it doesn't stop them from doing to you. 

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Editor’s Note: This is a contribution by Leanne Kallal from Tiny Buddha

“You are very powerful, provided you know how powerful you are.” ~Yogi Bhajan

Have you ever stopped to think about your definition of fear?

As my dear friend Mr. Webster states, fear is “an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat.”

Simply put, I disagree with this definition of fear.

My definition of fear goes something like this….

“An opportunity for self discovery and self growth; a well of untapped personal power and strength; the gateway from wishing and wanting to doing and being.”

The truth is, for most of us, fear is present on a regular basis, but the form that it chooses to present itself in is constantly changing. Maybe you experience anxiety, a deep nervousness, confusion, lack of motivation, uncertainty, or something unidentifiable deep within.

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"The illusion of "I am that" holds many of us captive in prisons of our own making. In the struggle to define ourselves as individuals, we often paint ourselves into lonely and sometimes dangerous corners. Gender, sexual orientation, politics, religion, race - although we may belong to a particular group, it is the over-identification with that group that separates us from the next individual. We become stunted in growth when we cling to these outward labels". 

- F. Emelia Sam

Somewhere along the way…things evolved to fall into categories. Everything suddenly (or not so suddenly) had a title or a label with predetermined meaning. Instead of finding our own meanings we allow ourselves to believe in things which we are told the meaning of…including ourselves. When you stop and think about yourself…and what defines you, do you come up with labels like: Mother, Brother, Wife, Friend, boyfriend, girlfriend, Liberal, Conservative, Writer (or insert job title here), boss, assistant, poor, rich, average, etc?

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I'm the one you really want, but you just can't see it
I tried and tried to make you understand - won't believe it
It's a shame...
You missing out on a good thing,
It's a shame...
You can't see a damn thing.
What you so scared of me for?
I'm just a woman
Maybe I got it all together like you think maybe I do!
'Cause yo I'm fresh and cool!

I can fend on my own, I'm magnificent
I'm a Queen on my throne, I'm magnificent
I'm the magnificent (Say what? Say what?)
I'm the magnificent

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I was asked if I intended on blogging about my personal training sessions and body transformation.  Initially no, since I'm looking too much for a body transformation as I am for a healthy and fully functional body as I continue to age, I thought it would be boring to write about.  However, I didn't think about the motivational part of it.  This journey IS going to be filled with highs and lows which is what this blog is about anyway so here it goes...

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I just had to share this.  Paulo Coelho can always find the greatest articles.  While they are all good tips, I for one, need to focus on 2, 5, and 6!

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To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself. ~Thich Nhat Hanh

We often hear that "beauty lies in the eye of the beholder" and to me that means when you fail to see the beauty in something, you don't change what you're looking at, you change your perception of what you're looking at. Today I am making the conscience decision to change the way that I see myself.

Sometimes I have to step back, observe and remind myself of all that makes me great emotionally, spiritually, and physically. It's easy to become your worst critic but it's hard to become your biggest fan.

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My immature maturity.
My clarity in confusion.
I'm left blinded by both the Wiseman and the Flasher.

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It seems there is nothing more confusing and taboo than matters of the heart. Doesn't seem to matter who you are, what gender you are or how old you are.


I am always amazed and find it funny we when dive head first into something as soon as the heart says go and our heads aren't even involved. I find it strange that we ask for multiple outside opinions when it comes to clothing or haircuts than we do about putting our own hearts on the line. We consider it a drastic change to color or cut our hair, or to purchase a sweater but then tend to not think twice when it comes to giving our hearts so completely to someone else.  The first of which is easy to  "recover" from...and the other not so much, yet we tend not to caution the latter.

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Can someone tell me...what's the big deal with turning 30?

Don't get me wrong - I understand better than anyone about the cliche and the pressure of what's expected from turning 30. It's all about the stable life which contains all of the glitter that little girls dream of. The age where you either already have, or have at least secured, the potential partner that will turn into the one and who will put that ideal rock on your finger as you skip happily down the isle in white. The cloud 9 life with a bun in the oven and the picture perfect house, with or without a picket fence, but definitely with a kid friendly yard. This followed by the devoted and doting husband who can't get enough of you and his kids. The couple that all other couples envy and who never argue or fight. Where did this cliche come from?

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